Someone asked me for an example of people thinking differently in terms of how they approach their outer life–what are the behaviours others might see in them?
So, an example …
My son has recently set up house and seems grateful for the odd bit of cast-off furniture we can send his way. So, finding ourselves with 2 sofas surplus to our needs, my husband and I agreed to pass them on to our boy. It was always going to entail hire of a van and a long drive between our houses, with all the accompanying planning that would be required to execute this handover successfully.
Having confirmed with my son a day for the transfer, I rang my husband to give him the go-ahead to book a van. The conversation went like this:
Me: Just confirmed with [wonderful son’s name] that next Tuesday is OK for you to deliver the sofas.
Husband: Great news.
Me: And I’ve told him you’ll arrive later in the afternoon to accommodate his getting home from work time.
That, dear reader, I thought was that. Oh no.
Husband: And which of the boxes of his possessions from his old bedroom does he want us to deliver?
Me: (heart sinking somewhat) Well, not sure; I didn’t ask. Most important thing is just to confirm the date today, so you can hire a van (stop fretting)
Husband: Yes, OK. And does he want the table too (another relative’s cast off)?
Me: I didn’t ask him. He was on his way to work and a bit busy, so I just confirmed the date (you don’t need to know this now)
Husband: Well we’ll need to know (you really should be able to give me answers to this, now, it’s important)
Me: Yes, I’ll find out later, perhaps tonight (and thinking … don’t worry, no problem, it will come together … later)
I have known my beloved long enough to know that we are different in our approach to planning and organising and viewing the world … me a bit of a big picture thinker and him often with a need to know the finer detail. We’re each not right or wrong … just different. Though the truth is that the difference needs managing and coming to terms with … but I’ll deal with that later when I encourage him to step out of his preference and see the world from my point of view!