“During the first two years of marriage we learned a vitally important lesson.  We learned, through some chance help, that the elements in the relationship that seemed impossible to share – the secretly disturbing, dissatisfying elements – are the most rewarding to share.  This was a hard, risky, frightening thing to learn, and we have relearned it many, many times since.  It was a rich and developing experience for each of us.”   Carl R Rogers (1980)

Just marriage?