I read an article the other day about self-confidence.

I was really taken with a notion the author put forward which suggested that sometimes the excuses we make are more about us than the people we’re imagining are causing us problems.

It reminded me that we can very rarely be responsible for changing someone else … but that we do have control over something far more powerful: ourselves.  And we can change ourselves.

Paraphrasing this author, the final message was clear:

It’s not about others; it’s about you.  You need to get out of your own way.